One of the hardest parts of this stage of cancer is trying to explain what it feels like when your body is still technically functioning, but everything about living inside it feels different.
Lately, I haven’t felt much like myself.
Not in the simple “I’m tired” way. Not in the normal exhaustion that comes with treatment. I mean in the deeper, scarier way where your own mind, body, and emotions start to feel unfamiliar.
Brain metastases have shifted so much of my reality. And while Enhertu is fighting for me in ways I desperately need, the cost of that fight can feel overwhelming some days.
Enhertu itself comes with its own cycle of side effects. The crushing fatigue that doesn’t feel fixed by sleep. The nausea that can creep in even when you’re doing everything right. The body aches, weakness, digestive issues, and overall sense that your system is constantly trying to recalibrate under pressure. It’s the kind of exhaustion that settles deep, where even small tasks can suddenly feel enormous.
But layering brain mets on top of that creates an entirely different level of physical and emotional complexity.
The swelling in my brain can bring pressure that turns into relentless migraines, headaches that don’t just hurt but disrupt everything. Sometimes it feels like my thoughts are harder to hold onto through the pain. My vision changes can be unsettling, making me hyperaware of every symptom and every shift. Mood swings can hit hard too, and that emotional instability can be just as difficult as the physical symptoms because it often feels like I’m reacting to life through a haze I didn’t choose.
There are moments where I feel angry, deeply emotional, terrified, overstimulated, or completely drained, sometimes all in the same day.
Steroids, medications, treatment side effects, inflammation, and fear all seem to collide.
And now, while still managing all of this, I’m also preparing for brain radiation.
Radiation isn’t just another appointment on the calendar. It’s another major step. Another reality to process. Another set of potential side effects, unknowns, and fears to mentally prepare for while already feeling physically and emotionally depleted.
I think one of the most isolating parts is that from the outside, people may just see that I’m continuing treatment.
But internally, it can feel like I’m grieving pieces of myself in real time.
I miss mental clarity. I miss feeling emotionally steady. I miss not analyzing every headache, every vision issue, every mood shift for what it could mean. I miss when my brain felt like a safe place to exist.
There’s a particular heartbreak in knowing treatment is necessary, being grateful for it, and still struggling deeply with how hard it all is.
Because gratitude does not erase suffering.
I am thankful for treatment. I am thankful for options. I am thankful to still be here. But I am also exhausted. I am scared. I am navigating side effects that impact nearly every part of daily life while trying to preserve some sense of identity through all of it.
Some days, I don’t feel strong or inspirational. Some days, I just feel like someone trying to survive an impossible amount of physical discomfort, emotional weight, and uncertainty.
Cancer, especially metastatic cancer involving the brain, is not just about “staying positive.”
It’s about managing pain, medications, neurological symptoms, emotional instability, medical appointments, fear, and grief, often all at once.
Right now, I am doing my best to navigate Enhertu, brain mets, swelling, migraines, vision changes, mood swings, and the looming reality of radiation.
Some days that looks like strength. Some days it looks like simply making it through. Both count.
I may not fully feel like myself right now, but I’m still here. Still adapting. Still grieving. Still hoping. Still fighting for as much of myself as I can hold onto. And for now, that has to be enough.
Thank you for being here, for reading, and for continuing to hold space for the hard, honest parts of this journey.
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